Queer ‘Two Spirit’ Shamans

Part of my ‘Spiritual Journey’ has been dealing with the word SHAMAN in application to myself. In 2004 I was asked to speak at a weekend conference on BREATHWORK in Milan Italy. I did my slot on Gay Relationships ( the term queer not used then ), in fact I had great problems using the term GAY to a heterosexual Italian crowd, they preferred ‘homosexual’ still believing it was a mental illness – but must push on . . . 

The next speaker, topping the bill, was a spanish woman, who I had met at other conferences, seen as quite unbalanced by this conservative crowd, suddenly asking ME without discussion, fuming at my reception, to assist in her Shamanic feather waving ceremony. I was commanded to hold the feathers!

I was a bit shocked and frankly embarrassed, but then she proceeded to totally demolish listeners by stating ( out of the blue ) I WAS A SHAMAN, an URBAN QUEER SHAMEN, someone who had healed himself from addictions and long held chronic disease. THAT SHUT THEM UP. 

It has taken me 20 years to accept it finally, that my somatic breathwork work is SHAMANIC. It’s a recent conclusion so I’m putting it out there as fact, as I am late to the party with over 35 years experience in assisting others to heal themselves. I am now over 42 years clean & sober too, and a phrase I picked up over the years in recovery rooms is ” you can’t give away what you haven’t got!”. EXPERIENCE is GOLD – with or without feathers.

A “Queer Two Spirit Shaman” refers to a Native American individual who embodies both masculine and feminine spiritual qualities, often taking on a role as a healer or spiritual leader within their community, and whose gender identity falls outside of the Western binary, historically described using the term “berdache” by Europeans, now considered outdated and often offensive; “Two Spirit” is the preferred term used by Indigenous people to describe this identity. 

Key points about this term:

  • “Two Spirit”:This is the contemporary, respectful term used by Indigenous people to describe individuals who embody both masculine and feminine spirits, often associated with special spiritual roles like shamanism. 
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  • “Berdache”:This term, originating from French, was used by European anthropologists to describe Native American people who did not conform to Western gender norms, but is now considered derogatory and should be avoided. 
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  • Shamanistic role:Historically, Two Spirit individuals often held significant spiritual positions within their tribes, acting as healers, visionaries, and ceremonial leaders. 
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  • Queer identity:“Queer” in this context encompasses the non-heteronormative aspects of a Two Spirit person’s gender identity and sexual orientation. 

Having said all that – Coaching, Life Audit and ‘Conscious Connected’  Rebirthing Breathwork that I provide – does NOT include feathers, ceremonies, ‘shrooms, ayahuasca, cacao or any mood altering substance. 

As alternative, Somatic Shamanic Breathwork I practice gets you high, ( like coming up on E – I keep hearing ) spiritually connected with safe emotional release of anxiety, depressions and blocked potentials. No Drumwork or talking sticks either. Specialised Practitioners do that so much better than me.

Attention Breathers!! New ‘Conscious Connected’ Monthly Breathwork Group Central London.

Prior to Pandemic, Long Covid and a Triple Heart Bypass recovery in 2020, I ran regular Breathwork Groups, and although I continued F2F individual Breathwork & Coaching Sessions during this period, the time feels right to re-create evening groups again. It’s clearly missed and needed in these trying times.

So much uncertainty, outside of our control, will increase in 2025, politically and personally that connecting verbally and breathing with others is a perfect act of self care, awareness and ACTION toward contentment and emotional stability.

Plenty of info about Breathwork is on this blog-site ( especially around ADHD, Depression and stored trauma release ).

I have over 35 years experience as an LRT ( Loving Relationship Training ) Rebirther & Trainer, plus in recovery, clean & sober 42 years. Experience is the key word.

If you have had experience of group work with me, the first one is TUESDAY FEBRUARY 18th 7 – 9.30 pm. If you have had no experience of Rebirthing Breathwork then ask for a FREE Individual Session prior to group with no obligation to join.

More info & groups will follow – I am just putting it out there to see what pick up I get for February.

It’s a small tutorial group, 4 max, close to Mornington Crescent tube. It costs 40 quid. 7 – 9.30 pm. Cheaper than a meal out these days or a few baggies and far more beneficial.

Forget considering Gym membership as a New Year res . . start working out from the INSIDE for once. Far more beneficial. ❤️ #breathe #LetsGETStarted 

Addiction in any form has a chance to be arrested. . .

. . . if OBSERVED. But it needs diligence, desire and determination each day. Facing it alone with white-knuckling will-power seldom works long-term, but Online Recovery Coaching is a good start in placing cards on the table for turnarounds.

I am 42 years clean, sober and nicotine free. If you have a drug, booze or addiction problem maybe I could help. At 35 I gave up booze, drugs and fags on the same day, Monday 26th October 1982 . . . but in truth drugs gave ME up.

A FREE online chat could direct you toward next steps in facing what you already know – you can’t do it alone anymore. We can discuss avenues of  new directions, agencies and solutions in turning around chaos living, secrets & lies, cover -ups, debt disorders and mental health with no judgements or obligation to continue any coaching. 

First step is send an email to rebirthyourlife@gmail.com

. . stating your current situation and how you think you need help and support.

It can be as short or long as you like. 

Chasing the Pounds. ££££

Post-Pandemic back to office life, continued working from home, changing careers thoughts and recovering bank balances are all on the calendar, but ahead of the race is what we call CHASING THE POUND. Or SPENDING it as soon as it comes in. Both sides of the coin. Money that is – not the waist line, but if truth be told expanded waistlines certainly grew during lockdowns and not always due to closed gyms.

Mental health issues and depleted vision can be weary companions for stalling, alongside our chum procrastination.

Since March 2020, wallet contents got smaller, savings depleted and worry back on the menu for payback, loans and second jobs. It’s normal to want to pay back quick, get out of debt and end the shame of it all. Debt in itself is not shaming – it’s how we ( or others ) view it. That’s the rub, but even manageable debt needs regular attention. PACING PAYBACK is essential however so that balance on all levels are achieved.

Stuffing unopened mail in drawers never helped me way back but it did lead to me facing the daisies by going voluntary bankrupt in 1984 – with no credit allowed anywhere for 5 years – unlike today, where softer options are available.

So yes, I’ve been there and bounced back. Getting back on the horse is difficult at any time but pandemic tested all our resources. 

Reading books on Debt Disorders, understanding causes with Debtors Anonymous are first steps for financial turnaround. COMMUNICATION is the key. But putting ACTION in is equally vital. I have sat with clients who cant face unopened envelopes stuffed in drawers, so I ask whether they are willing to bring them to session to open them in front of me. Yes it works. I have even had clients phone CC Companies and banks while in session. This trains those who can’t face FACE.

Working with a Recovery Coach F2F or Online, to address debt maybe the solution to other issues too and reduced rates for current budgets apply. This can be discussed at a FREE Introduction with no push for follow up.

You don’t have to be in a 12 Step Programme either to address debt it’s just a vehicle some jump on for support, but working with the Jerrold Mundis book is a good start for anyone. 

Living in Central London DAVID PARKER  has over 35 years experience as a Somatic Breathworker, Relationship Coach & Trainer, leading Breathwork, Codependency & Addiction Recovery Residential’s, Seminars and Workshops in all 5 Continents in countries including Australia, Venezuela, Morocco, Canada, Sweden, Italy, Greece, Austria, Estonia, Spain and Goa in India as well as the UK.

If you are interested in a FREE session, to find out more, with no obligation to continue – please send Introductory email to rebirthyourlife@gmail.com detailing who you are, background, needs and whether you are new to Breathwork. This really helps. Your journey begins at this point of discovery.

ONLINE LifeCoaching

‘Life is difficult’ is the first sentence of M. Scott Pecks groundbreaking book The Road Less Travelled, a path to personal development and spiritual growth, published in 1978, the time the world was wearing platforms – way before the digital platform world we now live in. 

Like walking in platforms it’s easy to stumble.

Many would say that life is even MORE difficult NOW with information overload, increased mental health issues, normalised addictive behaviours, job uncertainties, debt mountains & staggering cost of living et al. No wonder we feel the need to escape. But living blindfolded, only aids depression & living in the problem – not living in solutions. Talking about it is the first step.

This is where online coaching can be useful in picking yourself up. Not by being rescued but by being taught to rescue yourself. 

I have been successful over 40 years dealing with my own stuff, addictions, sexuality, alcoholism, chronic illnesses, toxic relationships, codependency, homelessness, bankruptcy and low esteems. All in the 1970’s. I threw the platforms away as well.

All of which are in my past, with found solutions, but I pass on these experiences to others, when needed, to encourage constant solutions in today’s tough times. 

I have remained clean & sober since 1982 and trained in 1988 with a 3 Year Training with global ‘The Loving Relationship Training ( LRT )’ and  also offer F2F Rebirthing ‘Conscious Connected Breathwork’ in Zone 1 London for stress and hoarded emotional release. See pages on this site and academic papers on blogs for more details.

Check also my Contact page for a Free Online Introduction with no obligation to continue with anything. I can explain the process, hear your story and see if both of us are suitable to interact further.

Or I can direct you to other avenues that may be more suitable for your needs.

If you decide to continue with regular online coaching, 30, 60 or 90 min sessions are available, times to suit including day, evening & weekends on global timezones.

Living in Central London DAVID PARKER  has over 35 years experience as a Somatic Breathworker, Relationship Coach & Trainer, leading Breathwork, Codependency & Addiction Recovery Residential’s, Seminars and Workshops in all 5 Continents in countries including Australia, Venezuela, Morocco, Canada, Sweden, Italy, Greece, Austria, Estonia, Spain and Goa in India as well as the UK.

If you are interested in a FREE session, to find out more, with no obligation to continue – please send Introductory email to rebirthyourlife@gmail.com detailing who you are, background, needs and whether you are new to Breathwork. This really helps. Your journey begins at this point of discovery.

Refreshed Recovery with a Recovery Coach

October 26th 1982 was my first day free from active addiction – I’ve been clean & sober ever since. It’s not been an easy road, but it has been essential to walk it, facing life head on without the usual escape routes.

As recommended, I worked with a 12 Step sponsor and after 3 years she moved away from London to start a new career, and we had no digital platforms of communication back then – unlike now. 

So I found another. Sadly he fell to the HIV virus eventually like many, died of AIDS. Such a loss for all. So many fell soon after – until combination therapies arrived in 1996. Another sponsor relapsed. One fatally overdosed. It’s the nature of the beast we seek to release.

In mid or long term recovery, few are doing 5 meetings a week as when we came in, we develop into other rhythms. 

Eventually I floated about seeking outside help, as for the first 15 years of Recovery I was living with cirrhosis of the liver and chronic active Hepatitis B Virus trying any crazy alternative therapies to stay alive.  Recovering from secondary conditions has always been my label.

I was not offered synthetic interferon treatment in the late 80’s because I was one of 10 patients on the original Human Interferon Drug trial at The Royal Free Hospital in London in 1982. Everyone died on that trial except me, so I was heavily monitored up to millennium year 2000. Miracles do happen.

I finally released the Hep B virus in 1996 using ‘Conscious Connected’ Rebirthing Breathwork, without the use of medication, but that’s another story, contact me to hear how I did it.

Recovery coaching is often viewed for newcomers to the recovery process but in my experience, it’s 10, 15, 20 years and beyond in fellowships that recovering people can wander in the wilderness.

Finding a sponsor is difficult if you hold a chunk of years up. You may have tried it yourself without success. Sometimes you just need short term focus on getting ‘back to basics’, back to the rooms or reconnection with primary purpose. This is where a Recovery Coach can step in. To bridge the gap in times of need. It’s not long term or regular sponsorship. 

Working with a Recovery Coach on Codependency issues, relapse thinking and awareness of developing other addictions can be ‘short term sessions’, depending on client needs.

When requested I have taken clients through 4th & 5th Steps in mid recovery, for example, using differing workbooks in a chosen fellowship, as some Anonymous Programmes have limited sponsorship opportunities.

I always encourage clients to also find a sponsor as back up. I do not replace one, only assist those stuck, procrastinating or desire guided spiritual direction.

Trained in 1988 I also offer Rebirthing ‘Conscious Connected Breathwork’ for stress and hoarded emotional release. See pages on this site and academic papers on blogs for more details. Check also my Contact page for a Free Online Introduction with no obligation to continue with anything. 

I don’t generally use 12 Steps in my Coaching work, unless requested as Recovery Coach. I also have a full sponsee list, an Al-Anon sponsor and have a service commitment at my NA home group.

Living in Central London DAVID PARKER  has over 35 years experience as a Somatic Breathworker, Relationship Coach & Trainer, leading Breathwork, Codependency & Addiction Recovery Residential’s, Seminars and Workshops in all 5 Continents in countries including Australia, Venezuela, Morocco, Canada, Sweden, Italy, Greece, Austria, Estonia, Spain and Goa in India as well as the UK.

If you are interested in a FREE session, to find out more, with no obligation to continue – please send Introductory email to rebirthyourlife@gmail.com detailing who you are, background, needs and whether you are new to Breathwork. This really helps. Your journey begins at this point of discovery.

2023. Finally dropped Long Covid.

For me 2023 was an amazing  year of advancement while seemingly doing very little on blogs during post-pandemic and stopping group work during the covid lockdown crisis. I needed to be busy working on myself.

It was a year of doing face to face Breathwork only, conscious connected Breathing ( CCB ) online is not for me. However I do offer ZOOM Coaching online – minus breathwork – for those requiring solutions. I have been ‘breathing’ people since 1988  and know that what ‘comes up’ in the moment needs to be addressed by touch not a screen. In the same way that a ZOOM is not the same as experiencing physical human chemistry face to face. So I don’t offer it for breathwork.

Since 2018 I have been dealing with my own health crisis : a triple heart bypass in 2019 and another open heart surgery soon after. Miraculously I did not have to have a heart attack. Both my parents died instantly with heart attacks so fully aware of genetical implications. But 5 months into not quite recovering from the 2 ops and 3 months on a catheter, I was unfortunate to catch the first wave in the UK of Covid in March 2020, then developed Long Covid for 2.75 years.

It was a challenge. After 3 months acupuncture and chinese herbs, I started to get better and in August 2022 started a 15 month Home Physcial Training twice a week with a Personal Trainer in my home.

That ended 2 months ago, now I am fitter than I was in 2018.

So 2023 was one of gratitude, introspection, and ENERGY. If you have had Covid or Long Covid (LC ) you know what I mean.  I even managed to get to Marrakesh twice last year. Previous LC years I could barely get to M&S! . . but illness has its virtues. A time to think, process, do nothing, make changes and forge ahead regardless. All a gift of discoveries.

All through the years of Long Covid I had health spaces well enough to work with clients on a 121 basis dealing with POST-PANDEMIC REBUILD. More about this programme in coming weeks with small groups returning in the Spring in Central London. I’m ready in preparation and if you are ready to offload forms of trauma holding you back, including PTSD,  then contact me for a FREE Introduction on Zoom or F2F.

I am 41 years clean & sober, my work is compatible with 12 Steps or those who have no need for anonymous programmes. I also specialise in Codependency Recovery so check out side pages on this blog for further info. Let’s BEAT 2024.

 

 

The effect of Birth Trauma

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The past 3 years have been challenging that’s for sure, not just for me but for many, especially those who suffer mental health issues & neurodiversity, abhorring change.

During 2019 I had health setbacks, collapsing a few times and a pacemaker was considered but in August of that year I collapsed again and within a week had open heart surgery with a triple bypass, followed by another heart operation 2 weeks later.

All WITHOUT having a Heart attack. Phew. Then a further 3 months on a catheter. If you know, you know what that’s like. 

I don’t say this for sympathy but to explain my ‘Birth Script’ – the conception, womb space and actual birth experience that becomes a blueprint for future living, feeling and survival. My Mum was 19, Dad 26 when I was born prematurely in May 1947 – 5 weeks early. Mum had a tummy ache at 7am and 10 mins later I shot out into my fathers arms, who delivered me on the kitchen table at 3 lbs 4 oz with the cord round my neck.  

A 10 min labour in later life proved a double edged sword – leaving me with birth trauma, PTSD, and addictions – meaning it was natural for me to be fast thinking ( get out or I will die ) no desire for a journey to do detail – needed speed – just get me to the hit in one swipe from A to Z.

Leaving me there he ran to the maternity hospital, ( luckily in our road ) leaving me on the table with cord unfurled & uncut, but a 5 min run, and he returned in an ambulance that put me in an incubator for 6 weeks with no human hands touching me, including my parents for less risk of infections.

It was a fight for life and survival via machine. But I passed the test. 

At 6 months old my uncle found me in the cot going blue and not breathing. We had no phones, so he grabbed me and ran with me in his arms to the same maternity hospital who placed me in another incubator with meningitis on the spine, for another 6 weeks trying to beat death. Once again on my own fighting for life. Then up to the age of 14 I attended Great Ormond Street Hospital for suspected brain damage with regular tests.

I stammered speech daily, especially in anxiety, and squinted with stress all through my childhood and teenage years until I found alcohol at 17 and it ended. The rest is history.

Your birth script acts as a montitor for survival, and patterns develop from it in later life. In 1981 I was diagnosed with Chronic Active Hep B Virus and Cirrhosis and six months to live, the following year I was one of 10 people on a Human Interferon drug trial, everyone died on the trial except me, so was heavily monitored by the research department of the Royal Free Hospital for a further 15 years.

In October 1982 I accepted I was an alcoholic and drug addict, workaholic and financially bankrupt. But I survived even that and now over 40 years clean & sober. #JFT

In 1989 – 92 I assisted Sondra Ray, a co-founder of Rebirthing with The Loving Relationship Training in London & Madrid who told me that I had survived death so many times, WHY DO I NEED TO CREATE more death like, living on the edge situations? . . in order to SURVIVE. There lies the rub. I had beaten death.

Funny how I got Hepatitis B every 6 weeks ( then 6 weeks without ) for 12 years, before I broke the pattern. In 1988 my first Rebirthing Practitioner Hilary Totah, explained that the 6 week Hep was a duplication of 6 weeks in an incubator! WHAT A REVELATION. It took another 6 years to release it – but I did, changing my DNA. In 1996 I lost the Chronic Active Auto Immune Hep B virus with just Breathwork, healing myself  without medications and I have been well ever since. DM me or ask me HOW. The solution came from BIRTH.

So overcoming heart operations, getting Covid in March 2020 and living with Long Covid for 2 years 9 months up to November 2022, tells you ( and me ) that the pattern of overcoming death is still there. RIGHT FROM BIRTH ❤️ but now I’m rather amused by it – even having used up my 9 lives. 🤣

POST-PANDEMIC REhab

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A Bespoke Programme designed for you. ONLINE and F2F. Central London.

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MORE INFO Coming Soon!

 

 

Tales of the Unexpected

Tales of the Unexpected was a UK 1970’s telly series that was a mustn’t miss weekly event. It told a different story every week and each episode was introduced by Roald Dahl himself sitting in a comfy armchair. Dahl wrote Charlie and The Chocolate Factory, Matilda and other classic children’s books, but also became a master of short stories for adults, most were very dark and had a twist in the tail. And that’s precisely what this series was based on – the UNEXPECTED. 

And so is LIFE.

In mid July I had a few blips going on with my heart, low heart rate mainly, called Bradycardia which needed A&E attention. A need for a pacemaker was discussed but not carried through as more tests were required over a period of time. A week away from August I collapsed at home and ambulanced into a truly unexpected dilemma that was certainly not part of my plan.

I was due to be in Athens early August for starters on a 10 day break. I didn’t make it. Nor the Athens 10 day trip in October. The Universe had other plans.

After a few days of observations, scans, X-rays and the like I was whisked off to Barts Heart Centre in Central/East London for a more detailed angiogram examination where I was told I needed triple heart bypass surgery within 48 hours to avoid heart attack. Thus began almost 3 months of complications, starting with another heart operation 2 weeks after the first. The whole scenario became a lesson in powerlessness, vulnerability, trust and avoidance of projection, keeping it all in the day, hour, minutes. I am only just coming out of it, knowing it will take a while to recover fully and start a 3 month Cardio Rehabilitation Programme next week. Game ON.

Meanwhile in November I will be gradually getting back to clients and small groups which is manageable carefully paced, doctors suggest going back to work or other practices after 3 months, so here I am with clients already on hold booking in. Group dates for Nov, Dec & Jan will be up in a few days.

BESPOKE COACHING & BREATHWORK assists dealing with the unexpected. Coaching can unravel what to do next in emotional circumstances – loss of a job, a sudden health diagnosis, relationship difficulties or compulsive habits of escape – food, booze, recreational drugs or sex addiction. 

SOMATIC EVOLUTIONARY BREATHWORK EXPERIENCE : I have practiced and taught for over 30 years assisting those with trapped emotional trauma, shallow breathing, anxiety, depression and anyone stuck in a rut. Breathwork unblocks thoughts, habits and realities freeing up the body and mind to experience less worry and more joyful conscious living. You deserve it.

So do check out blogs and pages on this site for solutions, and how you can switch from panic REACT to healthily RESPOND to unexpected scenarios, learn how to handle life’s twists and turns more ably. Oh and have regular BP and Heart checks. You never know.