Queer ‘Two Spirit’ Shamans

Part of my ‘Spiritual Journey’ has been dealing with the word SHAMAN in application to myself. In 2004 I was asked to speak at a weekend conference on BREATHWORK in Milan Italy. I did my slot on Gay Relationships ( the term queer not used then ), in fact I had great problems using the term GAY to a heterosexual Italian crowd, they preferred ‘homosexual’ still believing it was a mental illness – but must push on . . . 

The next speaker, topping the bill, was a spanish woman, who I had met at other conferences, seen as quite unbalanced by this conservative crowd, suddenly asking ME without discussion, fuming at my reception, to assist in her Shamanic feather waving ceremony. I was commanded to hold the feathers!

I was a bit shocked and frankly embarrassed, but then she proceeded to totally demolish listeners by stating ( out of the blue ) I WAS A SHAMAN, an URBAN QUEER SHAMEN, someone who had healed himself from addictions and long held chronic disease. THAT SHUT THEM UP. 

It has taken me 20 years to accept it finally, that my somatic breathwork work is SHAMANIC. It’s a recent conclusion so I’m putting it out there as fact, as I am late to the party with over 35 years experience in assisting others to heal themselves. I am now over 42 years clean & sober too, and a phrase I picked up over the years in recovery rooms is ” you can’t give away what you haven’t got!”. EXPERIENCE is GOLD – with or without feathers.

A “Queer Two Spirit Shaman” refers to a Native American individual who embodies both masculine and feminine spiritual qualities, often taking on a role as a healer or spiritual leader within their community, and whose gender identity falls outside of the Western binary, historically described using the term “berdache” by Europeans, now considered outdated and often offensive; “Two Spirit” is the preferred term used by Indigenous people to describe this identity. 

Key points about this term:

  • “Two Spirit”:This is the contemporary, respectful term used by Indigenous people to describe individuals who embody both masculine and feminine spirits, often associated with special spiritual roles like shamanism. 
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  • “Berdache”:This term, originating from French, was used by European anthropologists to describe Native American people who did not conform to Western gender norms, but is now considered derogatory and should be avoided. 
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  • Shamanistic role:Historically, Two Spirit individuals often held significant spiritual positions within their tribes, acting as healers, visionaries, and ceremonial leaders. 
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  • Queer identity:“Queer” in this context encompasses the non-heteronormative aspects of a Two Spirit person’s gender identity and sexual orientation. 

Having said all that – Coaching, Life Audit and ‘Conscious Connected’  Rebirthing Breathwork that I provide – does NOT include feathers, ceremonies, ‘shrooms, ayahuasca, cacao or any mood altering substance. 

As alternative, Somatic Shamanic Breathwork I practice gets you high, ( like coming up on E – I keep hearing ) spiritually connected with safe emotional release of anxiety, depressions and blocked potentials. No Drumwork or talking sticks either. Specialised Practitioners do that so much better than me.

Attention Breathers!! New ‘Conscious Connected’ Monthly Breathwork Group Central London.

Prior to Pandemic, Long Covid and a Triple Heart Bypass recovery in 2020, I ran regular Breathwork Groups, and although I continued F2F individual Breathwork & Coaching Sessions during this period, the time feels right to re-create evening groups again. It’s clearly missed and needed in these trying times.

So much uncertainty, outside of our control, will increase in 2025, politically and personally that connecting verbally and breathing with others is a perfect act of self care, awareness and ACTION toward contentment and emotional stability.

Plenty of info about Breathwork is on this blog-site ( especially around ADHD, Depression and stored trauma release ).

I have over 35 years experience as an LRT ( Loving Relationship Training ) Rebirther & Trainer, plus in recovery, clean & sober 42 years. Experience is the key word.

If you have had experience of group work with me, the first one is TUESDAY FEBRUARY 18th 7 – 9.30 pm. If you have had no experience of Rebirthing Breathwork then ask for a FREE Individual Session prior to group with no obligation to join.

More info & groups will follow – I am just putting it out there to see what pick up I get for February.

It’s a small tutorial group, 4 max, close to Mornington Crescent tube. It costs 40 quid. 7 – 9.30 pm. Cheaper than a meal out these days or a few baggies and far more beneficial.

Forget considering Gym membership as a New Year res . . start working out from the INSIDE for once. Far more beneficial. ❤️ #breathe #LetsGETStarted 

Rebirthing Breathwork. An explanation by Bron Barter.

 

Bron Barter : President of the Australian Academy of Breathwork

I have been a Rebirther /Breathwork Therapist and trainer in Australia for over 30 years now, and thought I’d just clear up some confusion with some insights about Breathwork. Lately I have been thinking  about the use of the name BREATHWORK.

Many complimentary practitioners, describe their work as incorporating Breathwork. I think that this is creating confusion.

I have seen that some people who advertise as using Breathwork are using breathing exercises, which are taught in Yoga classes and are in fact the Pranayama style of breathing exercises. Pranayama breathing techniques are of course fabulous and essential whilst doing yoga poses. Yoga is not yoga, without using the breath to release and relax.

A pranayama cycle has three phases

• Puraka, or inhalation / • Kumbhaka, or retention / • Rechaka, or exhalation

Rebirthing/Breathwork, in its original form, is a safe, simple breathing technique, using a conscious connected breath, for a particular period of time; this can vary from 45 minutes to an hour with no conscious breaks or pauses unless the breath dictates, while integrating emotional release. It is not a series of different breathing exercises as in Pranayama.

The breath remains connected with no breath retention and provides the breather with an entirely different experience than that of Pranayama.

Supported by a well-trained, professional practitioner, this process can help people release, and gain insights as the session/s progress. Breathwork Therapy practitioners, study intensively to be able to provide a supported space for the clients. This technique is very powerful and can help create permanent change.

We now call this technique Breathwork Therapy, some practitioners have returned to the extended description of our work, as Rebirthing/Breathwork Therapy.

This Breathwork is different from the breathing exercises that we practise in a yoga session. I hope that this clears up any confusion, just let me know if you have any questions.

Namaste… Bron Barter . . .

Brons FB Page : https://www.facebook.com/truthsimplicity 

 

Message from David Parker : Rebirthyourlife.me 

In 2010 I was made an Honorary Member of The Australian Academy of Breathwork – for my groundbreaking work and service over 2 decades as a Breathworker, Life Style Coach & Trainer.

Bron Barter and her Breathwork Training Academy brought me to Adelaide several times to incorporate my work with the major work she pioneered and I fully agree with the above, especially around ONLINE Breathwork that has become the trend – it can be very confusing.

I also have reverted back to named and how I was trained – calling myself a REBIRTHER, in order to separate myself from other forms of shamanic ceremonial breathwork that includes psychedelics.

As a recovering addict and holding clients who are, this path is not recommended for them, however I am fully aware that psychedelics help many people to express and release trauma.

Rebirthing ‘Conscious Connected’ Breathwork’ as Bron clearly explains is a tool to release trauma without the use of mood altering substances as process. The power of the breath is paramount. 

Om Namaha Shivaya.

Living in Central London DAVID PARKER  has over 35 years experience as a Somatic Breathworker, Relationship Coach & Trainer, leading Breathwork, Codependency & Addiction Recovery Residential’s, Seminars and Workshops in all 5 Continents in countries including Australia, Venezuela, Morocco, Canada, Sweden, Italy, Greece, Austria, Estonia, Spain and Goa in India as well as the UK.

If you are interested in a FREE session, to find out more, with no obligation to continue – please send Introductory email to rebirthyourlife@gmail.com detailing who you are, background, needs and whether you are new to Breathwork. This really helps. Your journey begins at this point of discovery.

Refreshed Recovery with a Recovery Coach

October 26th 1982 was my first day free from active addiction – I’ve been clean & sober ever since. It’s not been an easy road, but it has been essential to walk it, facing life head on without the usual escape routes.

As recommended, I worked with a 12 Step sponsor and after 3 years she moved away from London to start a new career, and we had no digital platforms of communication back then – unlike now. 

So I found another. Sadly he fell to the HIV virus eventually like many, died of AIDS. Such a loss for all. So many fell soon after – until combination therapies arrived in 1996. Another sponsor relapsed. One fatally overdosed. It’s the nature of the beast we seek to release.

In mid or long term recovery, few are doing 5 meetings a week as when we came in, we develop into other rhythms. 

Eventually I floated about seeking outside help, as for the first 15 years of Recovery I was living with cirrhosis of the liver and chronic active Hepatitis B Virus trying any crazy alternative therapies to stay alive.  Recovering from secondary conditions has always been my label.

I was not offered synthetic interferon treatment in the late 80’s because I was one of 10 patients on the original Human Interferon Drug trial at The Royal Free Hospital in London in 1982. Everyone died on that trial except me, so I was heavily monitored up to millennium year 2000. Miracles do happen.

I finally released the Hep B virus in 1996 using ‘Conscious Connected’ Rebirthing Breathwork, without the use of medication, but that’s another story, contact me to hear how I did it.

Recovery coaching is often viewed for newcomers to the recovery process but in my experience, it’s 10, 15, 20 years and beyond in fellowships that recovering people can wander in the wilderness.

Finding a sponsor is difficult if you hold a chunk of years up. You may have tried it yourself without success. Sometimes you just need short term focus on getting ‘back to basics’, back to the rooms or reconnection with primary purpose. This is where a Recovery Coach can step in. To bridge the gap in times of need. It’s not long term or regular sponsorship. 

Working with a Recovery Coach on Codependency issues, relapse thinking and awareness of developing other addictions can be ‘short term sessions’, depending on client needs.

When requested I have taken clients through 4th & 5th Steps in mid recovery, for example, using differing workbooks in a chosen fellowship, as some Anonymous Programmes have limited sponsorship opportunities.

I always encourage clients to also find a sponsor as back up. I do not replace one, only assist those stuck, procrastinating or desire guided spiritual direction.

Trained in 1988 I also offer Rebirthing ‘Conscious Connected Breathwork’ for stress and hoarded emotional release. See pages on this site and academic papers on blogs for more details. Check also my Contact page for a Free Online Introduction with no obligation to continue with anything. 

I don’t generally use 12 Steps in my Coaching work, unless requested as Recovery Coach. I also have a full sponsee list, an Al-Anon sponsor and have a service commitment at my NA home group.

Living in Central London DAVID PARKER  has over 35 years experience as a Somatic Breathworker, Relationship Coach & Trainer, leading Breathwork, Codependency & Addiction Recovery Residential’s, Seminars and Workshops in all 5 Continents in countries including Australia, Venezuela, Morocco, Canada, Sweden, Italy, Greece, Austria, Estonia, Spain and Goa in India as well as the UK.

If you are interested in a FREE session, to find out more, with no obligation to continue – please send Introductory email to rebirthyourlife@gmail.com detailing who you are, background, needs and whether you are new to Breathwork. This really helps. Your journey begins at this point of discovery.

2023. Finally dropped Long Covid.

For me 2023 was an amazing  year of advancement while seemingly doing very little on blogs during post-pandemic and stopping group work during the covid lockdown crisis. I needed to be busy working on myself.

It was a year of doing face to face Breathwork only, conscious connected Breathing ( CCB ) online is not for me. However I do offer ZOOM Coaching online – minus breathwork – for those requiring solutions. I have been ‘breathing’ people since 1988  and know that what ‘comes up’ in the moment needs to be addressed by touch not a screen. In the same way that a ZOOM is not the same as experiencing physical human chemistry face to face. So I don’t offer it for breathwork.

Since 2018 I have been dealing with my own health crisis : a triple heart bypass in 2019 and another open heart surgery soon after. Miraculously I did not have to have a heart attack. Both my parents died instantly with heart attacks so fully aware of genetical implications. But 5 months into not quite recovering from the 2 ops and 3 months on a catheter, I was unfortunate to catch the first wave in the UK of Covid in March 2020, then developed Long Covid for 2.75 years.

It was a challenge. After 3 months acupuncture and chinese herbs, I started to get better and in August 2022 started a 15 month Home Physcial Training twice a week with a Personal Trainer in my home.

That ended 2 months ago, now I am fitter than I was in 2018.

So 2023 was one of gratitude, introspection, and ENERGY. If you have had Covid or Long Covid (LC ) you know what I mean.  I even managed to get to Marrakesh twice last year. Previous LC years I could barely get to M&S! . . but illness has its virtues. A time to think, process, do nothing, make changes and forge ahead regardless. All a gift of discoveries.

All through the years of Long Covid I had health spaces well enough to work with clients on a 121 basis dealing with POST-PANDEMIC REBUILD. More about this programme in coming weeks with small groups returning in the Spring in Central London. I’m ready in preparation and if you are ready to offload forms of trauma holding you back, including PTSD,  then contact me for a FREE Introduction on Zoom or F2F.

I am 41 years clean & sober, my work is compatible with 12 Steps or those who have no need for anonymous programmes. I also specialise in Codependency Recovery so check out side pages on this blog for further info. Let’s BEAT 2024.

 

 

What clients have achieved via Individual 121 Sessions, Groupwork, Seminars and Breathwork Retreats.

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” I have recently done my first ‘Conscious Connected’ Rebirthing Breathwork session with David and not knowing what to expect, or the man that well, I went along. I shall definitely be doing it again. He has a way of getting to the core of a person, and the root of a problem. It was a beautiful, funny, emotional, wonderful experience. I have done lots of energy work, meditation and breathing exercises in the past, and was totally blown away by my experience once he started me breathing.

My body, mind and soul connected in a way it had never before, and I can only put my experience down to the unique energy and persona of this man. I definitely feel more connected to myself in a way I’ve never before, and a certain personal problem I’ve had since childhood, seems to have vanished.

I’m totally amazed. I was totally surprised by the depth and intensity of my experience in the Rebirthing, and how deep he put me under. He took total care of me at all times, and where I would normally feel jumpy I felt totally safe. 

Cannot recommend him enough, and I will definitely be returning. 

Thank you so much “. MC – London

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“I’m Ted, 27 years old, and I first discovered Somatic Rebirthing Breathwork through David Parker, ( here on the right of this pic ) a Breathworker with over 30 years experience, after he suggested I try breath work and I trust his sound judgement so I decided to come to an individual session and give it a go.

But from someone who has been diagnosed bi-polar (rapid-cycling) for 7 years and suffered many ins and outs of depression, medication, therapists and institutions, at first I was sceptical and I also find communicating with people and systems somewhat of a task due to my Aspergers (High-Functioning) syndrome, diagnosed in my teenage years. I was not convinced that breathing would really have that much of an impact on me.

I had done meditation and Bikram yoga which both centre heavily around breathing and mostly the outcomes of these activities had been a headache or general exhaustion.

Most importantly I have found Rebirthing Breathwork to be the most effective form of therapy in helping me through tough patches of depression. And if we consider that I have been through many a psychiatric professional, various institutions and 13 different medications over 6 years I think you can agree that this is somewhat of a profound discovery.

 

What Breathwork does is it gets you past your intellectual barriers and complicated head based reasoning and puts you into your body. It reaches deep into your soul and gives it a good massage and a shake. What this allows you to do is become unstuck.

One of my biggest difficulties with depression is getting stuck. Either in a hole or a loop or a sticky pool of mud. Regardless of the work I have done the day before I wake up the next day in the same pool of shit I started in the day before.

This winter I experienced this cycle for an excruciating 4 months and I am still not entirely free of it. However, when I have attended a breathwork session it has always shifted something. I can’t always put my finger on what but I can feel that within me something has moved. This in turn has helped to remove me partially if not entirely out of my loop/whole/pool of mud in the space of a few hours.

This is incredible!

Never before could anything get me out of these ruts. Only recreational drugs or extreme life situations ever had any effect; and these two options come with negative longterm consequences whereas breath work does not. Price wise it is even reasonable, especially compared to other alternative therapies and private medical care. For me I have found accessing therapies through the NHS extremely traumatic and the end result was that I was left on drugs without monitoring or any sort of talking/holistic therapies.

Rebirthing breath work has begun a process in me. And I will continue to use it as therapeutic tool for as long as it serves me. I have huge gratitude for David in individual sessions and  his URBAN LIFECLASS group sessions, for showing me breathwork and allowing me some release and progress from depression.

This is how Breathwork makes me feel : Refreshed, ALIVE, Energised and FREE . . .”

by Ted Rogers : Dancer/Performance/Writer/Artist/ Blogger/Poet/Model/Stylist https://www.instagram.com/artpornblog/?hl=en

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Scott Buchan : “I spoke to David and he said about coming along to one of the seminars he was getting up and running in Victoria. I went along open-minded and with no expectation on what was going to happen. 

It ended up being one of the most extraordinary moments in my life. 

I still can’t explain exactly what happened but I had an ‘out of body’ experience during my first ever breathe. I cried like I hadn’t cried since I was a baby. I felt all this physical pain fill up inside me, overwhelm me and somehow drain from me. I curled up in a foetal ball, I shook, I sobbed, I made a hell of a noise and I was looked after tenderly by David and the team and I felt, without being too dramatic, reborn afterwards.” 

More on Scotts feedback story, especially if you are in Recovery from Addictions is here : https://rebirthyourlife.me/2018/04/09/scott-buchan-lives-to-tell-the-tale-of-regular-conscious-connected-breathwork-commitment-and-deserved-results-worked-it/ 

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Feedback from Kate Spence a participant of IMMACULATE PERCEPTIONS –

Spiritual Hoovering and a Blissful Path To Creative Release.
A weekend workshop with Rebirthing Breathwork Trainer David Parker & Performance Artist Dickie Beau funded by The LIVE ART Development Agency.

At Chelsea Theatre Kings Road London 

“I found both breathing sessions very physical experiences, as opposed to emotional or mental. I responded physically, and struggled to breathe, I got light headed, my hands got pins and needles, I needed the toilet, but I didn’t become aware of emotional or mental processes. This was actually fantastic as I normally have far too much chaos in my mind, so to feel calm and empty was wonderful.

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Feedback on our yearly Breathwork Retreats in Marrakech.

The effect of Birth Trauma

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The past 3 years have been challenging that’s for sure, not just for me but for many, especially those who suffer mental health issues & neurodiversity, abhorring change.

During 2019 I had health setbacks, collapsing a few times and a pacemaker was considered but in August of that year I collapsed again and within a week had open heart surgery with a triple bypass, followed by another heart operation 2 weeks later.

All WITHOUT having a Heart attack. Phew. Then a further 3 months on a catheter. If you know, you know what that’s like. 

I don’t say this for sympathy but to explain my ‘Birth Script’ – the conception, womb space and actual birth experience that becomes a blueprint for future living, feeling and survival. My Mum was 19, Dad 26 when I was born prematurely in May 1947 – 5 weeks early. Mum had a tummy ache at 7am and 10 mins later I shot out into my fathers arms, who delivered me on the kitchen table at 3 lbs 4 oz with the cord round my neck.  

A 10 min labour in later life proved a double edged sword – leaving me with birth trauma, PTSD, and addictions – meaning it was natural for me to be fast thinking ( get out or I will die ) no desire for a journey to do detail – needed speed – just get me to the hit in one swipe from A to Z.

Leaving me there he ran to the maternity hospital, ( luckily in our road ) leaving me on the table with cord unfurled & uncut, but a 5 min run, and he returned in an ambulance that put me in an incubator for 6 weeks with no human hands touching me, including my parents for less risk of infections.

It was a fight for life and survival via machine. But I passed the test. 

At 6 months old my uncle found me in the cot going blue and not breathing. We had no phones, so he grabbed me and ran with me in his arms to the same maternity hospital who placed me in another incubator with meningitis on the spine, for another 6 weeks trying to beat death. Once again on my own fighting for life. Then up to the age of 14 I attended Great Ormond Street Hospital for suspected brain damage with regular tests.

I stammered speech daily, especially in anxiety, and squinted with stress all through my childhood and teenage years until I found alcohol at 17 and it ended. The rest is history.

Your birth script acts as a montitor for survival, and patterns develop from it in later life. In 1981 I was diagnosed with Chronic Active Hep B Virus and Cirrhosis and six months to live, the following year I was one of 10 people on a Human Interferon drug trial, everyone died on the trial except me, so was heavily monitored by the research department of the Royal Free Hospital for a further 15 years.

In October 1982 I accepted I was an alcoholic and drug addict, workaholic and financially bankrupt. But I survived even that and now over 40 years clean & sober. #JFT

In 1989 – 92 I assisted Sondra Ray, a co-founder of Rebirthing with The Loving Relationship Training in London & Madrid who told me that I had survived death so many times, WHY DO I NEED TO CREATE more death like, living on the edge situations? . . in order to SURVIVE. There lies the rub. I had beaten death.

Funny how I got Hepatitis B every 6 weeks ( then 6 weeks without ) for 12 years, before I broke the pattern. In 1988 my first Rebirthing Practitioner Hilary Totah, explained that the 6 week Hep was a duplication of 6 weeks in an incubator! WHAT A REVELATION. It took another 6 years to release it – but I did, changing my DNA. In 1996 I lost the Chronic Active Auto Immune Hep B virus with just Breathwork, healing myself  without medications and I have been well ever since. DM me or ask me HOW. The solution came from BIRTH.

So overcoming heart operations, getting Covid in March 2020 and living with Long Covid for 2 years 9 months up to November 2022, tells you ( and me ) that the pattern of overcoming death is still there. RIGHT FROM BIRTH ❤️ but now I’m rather amused by it – even having used up my 9 lives. 🤣

Treating PTSD with connected breathing: A clinical case study and theoretical implications

European Journal of Trauma & Dissociation

Volume 5, Issue 3, September 2021,

Extended connected breathing (Rebirthing-Breathwork) has been popular as a self-development tool for more than 4 decades, but has been subjected to minimal scientific research. Similarities between connected breathing and two therapeutic modalities used to treat <a class="topic-link" title="Learn more about posttraumatic stress disorder from ScienceDirect's AI-generated Topic Pages"

href=”https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/neuroscience/posttraumatic-stress-disorder”>posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)—Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and Somatic Experiencing—suggest connected breathing to be efficacious in treating PTSD.

The underlying theoretical model in these three approaches suggests that trauma is a result of the blocking or repressing of spontaneous somatic and cognitive processing. This study investigated the efficacy of connected breathing to treat PTSD in a firefighter.

Pre- and posttreatment measures consisted of instruments to measure PTSD symptom-severity, anxiety, depression and heart rate variability (HRV). After 8 connected breathing sessions the participant’s PTSD and comorbid symptoms were in complete remission. Subjective reports and HRV data-analysis support the blocking/repression theory and suggest a role of the parasympathetic nervous system in the blocking of spontaneous trauma processing. In this case the original trauma appears have been a traumatic birth.

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